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General Topics => Off Topic => Topic started by: eyeeatingfish on October 27, 2015, 02:05:35 AM
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I don't mean this as a demeaning rant but a general comment about the incomprehensibility of women. I try to be open minded and not stuck to stereotypes but I see them reinforced over and over again in my own marriage, but in others too.
There seems to be a certain lack of attention to technical detail. For example my wife doesn't discover basic button functions on her cell phone whereas I know what they do because I pay attention when I press them and for how long I press them (holding buttons results in a different effect). Or she will try to change something on the radio and push buttons without looking what button she was pressing. Or buying a 4" Makita angle grinder when I told her a 4.5" Dewalt angle grinder. Overall a lack of looking at things with a technical scientific analytical mind.
But the bigger issue that prompted me to write this is inconsistent decisions or ideas based on emotion. For example making a decision or a judgment based on a perceived reality without even thinking about whether the perception is supported. She saw a couple for sale signs on homes and this led her to the conclusion there are so many houses on the market right now when of course, two realty signs do not constitute an accurate statistical representation of homes for sale. Maybe I am being too picky on that example but other things where emotions affect things that have no reason to be affected.
For example take a certain food. If she is in a bad mood or depressed mood she might say that she doesn't like that food, while at another time in a different circumstance she will like that food. And I don't mean she just doesn't feel like eating it right then, but actually doesn't like the taste. I explain that no matter whether I am happy or sad or whatever a Cinnabon (a food I really like) always tastes good. The chemicals that make up the flavors of a food I like do not change so my liking a food should not be contingent on my feelings. I might not feel hungry at a particular time but regardless a Cinnabon cinnamon roll tastes good.
The specific example that irked me most happened this weekend was that we were watching a movie called Dead Lands, about Maori tribes and a battle and revenge. In the combat scenes the Maori warriors make their cultural warrior face with their tongues sticking out. Now it was violent and a little bloody but it wasn't as bloody as Braveheart and my wife loves that movie. She didn't like this movie though/ Well after the movie she didn't want to kiss as she was grossed out by the way they showed their tongues. WTF? Why does a fictional movie that shows a cultural way of sticking out a tongue in a war face affect her feelings towards her own husband!? She sees that scene and all of a sudden she doesn't like kissing? Does she not consider that she liked kissing before and that nothing about kissing changed?
So I ask, is my wife broken or are all women like this?
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Wife? I thought you were gay!
Juuuust kidding......nr
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unpredicability is a large part of the mystique of being a female
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Not all, but certainly most, and some women are more predisposed to this than others.
It's a documented fact that women's brains are wired differently than men's. They filter information and make decisions based on emotion, rather than logic and reason.
Don't worry about it, you'll get used to it. Accept the fact that you'll never understand, and that you're wrong. Yes, even when you're right. Especially then........
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Wife? I thought you were gay!
Juuuust kidding......nr
You assume he's not a "she" ... EyeEatingFish could be her Lesbian nickname!
It would sure explain all the comments grounded in pure emotion!
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He's trying to figure out his wife... Classic guy thinking.
Friendly advice.... Don't try to fix your wife... you can't change her. Just accept and love her for who she is.
Inconsistent behavior? Women have this thing called women hormones and PMS. It does affect them especially in terms of emotions.
If you have free time with your wife, I highly recommend watching this video together with her. Mark Gungor is hilarious and talks about the differences between the male and female brains.
Mark Gungor Tale of Two Brains Full
http://youtu.be/814eR5K7KD8
About 2 hours long and well worth it.
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You assume he's not a "she" ... EyeEatingFish could be her Lesbian nickname!
It would sure explain all the comments grounded in pure emotion!
So you mean they both eating fish.
I already regret typing that but I did it anyway.
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Just one question.... what guy sends his wife to buy an angle grinder? Other than that women are fickle creatures.
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So I ask, is my wife am I broken or are all women people like this?
Yes, and yes.
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If I may ask, why did you marry her?
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Not all, but certainly most, and some women are more predisposed to this than others.
Don't worry about it, you'll get used to it. Accept the fact that you'll never understand, and that you're wrong. Yes, even when you're right. Especially then........
Very wise words to live by....
Friendly advice.... Don't try to fix your wife... you can't change her. Just accept and love her for who she is.
Inconsistent behavior? Women have this thing called women hormones and PMS. It does affect them especially in terms of emotions.
I'm not looking forward to the Menopause phase ... Luv you hunny if you're reading this :rofl:
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If I may ask, why did you marry her?
https://youtu.be/i3qTkMW7VXg
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I don't mean this as a demeaning rant but a general comment about the incomprehensibility of women. I try to be open minded and not stuck to stereotypes but I see them reinforced over and over again in my own marriage, but in others too.
There seems to be a certain lack of attention to technical detail. For example my wife doesn't discover basic button functions on her cell phone whereas I know what they do because I pay attention when I press them and for how long I press them (holding buttons results in a different effect). Or she will try to change something on the radio and push buttons without looking what button she was pressing. Or buying a 4" Makita angle grinder when I told her a 4.5" Dewalt angle grinder. Overall a lack of looking at things with a technical scientific analytical mind.
But the bigger issue that prompted me to write this is inconsistent decisions or ideas based on emotion. For example making a decision or a judgment based on a perceived reality without even thinking about whether the perception is supported. She saw a couple for sale signs on homes and this led her to the conclusion there are so many houses on the market right now when of course, two realty signs do not constitute an accurate statistical representation of homes for sale. Maybe I am being too picky on that example but other things where emotions affect things that have no reason to be affected.
For example take a certain food. If she is in a bad mood or depressed mood she might say that she doesn't like that food, while at another time in a different circumstance she will like that food. And I don't mean she just doesn't feel like eating it right then, but actually doesn't like the taste. I explain that no matter whether I am happy or sad or whatever a Cinnabon (a food I really like) always tastes good. The chemicals that make up the flavors of a food I like do not change so my liking a food should not be contingent on my feelings. I might not feel hungry at a particular time but regardless a Cinnabon cinnamon roll tastes good.
The specific example that irked me most happened this weekend was that we were watching a movie called Dead Lands, about Maori tribes and a battle and revenge. In the combat scenes the Maori warriors make their cultural warrior face with their tongues sticking out. Now it was violent and a little bloody but it wasn't as bloody as Braveheart and my wife loves that movie. She didn't like this movie though/ Well after the movie she didn't want to kiss as she was grossed out by the way they showed their tongues. WTF? Why does a fictional movie that shows a cultural way of sticking out a tongue in a war face affect her feelings towards her own husband!? She sees that scene and all of a sudden she doesn't like kissing? Does she not consider that she liked kissing before and that nothing about kissing changed?
So I ask, is my wife broken or are all women like this?
I would normally stay away from a posting like this. But under certain circumstances I decided to reply to this. Your question is if your wife is broken or are all women like this? IMHO your wife is broken and so are you. Let me explain:
First let me qualify myself here. I am on my third wife. My first I was 19 and lasted 6 months. My second lasted 9.5 years. I have been currently married for 21 years (22 years next month). In the many years and numerous wives I have had I found a lot of what you wrote to be consistent with pretty much every wife and some girlfriends. But not everything.
I have never had a wife or GF deny kissing or any type of sex for any similar reason as such as you wrote. I guess I have been pretty lucky in that respect because if any woman in my life had done that to me I would have broken up with her or divorced her. In a similar story, my current wife hates coconut. Has hated it since I have known her. She has made this VERY clear. So one day after we moved here she called me up and told me that someone at work made Haupia pie and she told me how much she loved it. That is when I asked her if she knew what haupia was. She was pretty silent when I told her haupia was coconut. Since then she refuses to eat anything with haupia in it because she hates coconut. I really don't care. If it makes no sense to me I just say fuck it. Why should I concern myself with this? It is her issue and basically has nothing to do with me and thus doesn't affect me. I just accept it and I don't get frustrated. Why would you want to make yourself frustrated? It is the fact that you allow or make yourself frustrated over something that doesn't concern you that is the real problem here. Not the fact that she likes something one day and not the next. This is your issue IMHO. Not hers. Personally, I think you should see someone or do something about allowing someone to affect you in that way. It is not healthy.
Reading what you said about the button pushing. I have to say my current wife is VERY smart. She is the smartest person I know. But she is not very tech savvy. She has a smart phone and barely knows how to text with it. So why does the fact that she doesn't know how to properly push the button frustrate you? Who cares? Why does this concern you? If she asks you to help, you are the hero. There is no reason to get frustrated. If she never learns for herself how to properly push a button, that is her problem. Not yours. Why would you allow yourself to get frustrated over her lack of desire to learn a basic function? Offer to help (Just remember it is like teaching someone to drive) or keep your mouth shut. Either way, if you get frustrated that is on you. If she sits there frustrated with the phone and doesn't ask for help and you get frustrated that is on you. You are the one who is making or allowing yourself to get frustrated. It is not her doing it to you. You are responsible for your own feelings, not her. Dude, you really need to get some help. Do you realize how manini this is? If something this small gets you frustrated enough to bring it to a public forum I would suggest getting help.
You also talk about her having ideas based on emotion. I hate to tell you but a lot of the ideas you have written here in this forum about all sorts of subjects have been based on emotion. You have been blasted in this forum by others over your emotional ideas. Don't get me wrong, you are entitled to your feelings and the ideas that stem from them. But to get frustrated over your wife's emotional issues, while it might be acceptable to you, it is not very understanding of you. And it certainly isn't healthy. In order to deal with her emotional baggage you both need to learn what the correct tools are and how to use them. And if you both don't know what those tools are you two should seek help in finding out.
The whole reason for me writing this is not to blast you or try and make you out to be something you may feel you are not. It is to point out that in the grand scheme of things all of these issues you wrote about are so small that if they affect you so much you have to seek advice in a public forum then what is going to happen when something truly big comes along? It sounds to me like you are ill prepared to deal with all these small issues. You really need to learn how to cope with them. Otherwise a big issue will break you two apart. Maybe not right away. But as soon as some sort of resentment starts to build and either you or her (or both) don't know how to properly handle it, your marriage is over. This is JMHO.
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Here's a better question.
What kind of loser goes on a gun forum to complain about his wife?
You sound like a critical, P.O.S. of a husband.
If you want a tool, go buy it yourself.
What about instead of criticizing your wife, you fix yourself.
If you're half the @$$hole at home as you are on this forum, she will leave you anyway.
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Just one question.... what guy sends his wife to buy an angle grinder? Other than that women are fickle creatures.
She asked what I wanted for my birthday present, so I made it clear, to save me from a second trip to exchange an item if she bought one I wasn't interested in.
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He's trying to figure out his wife... Classic guy thinking.
Friendly advice.... Don't try to fix your wife... you can't change her. Just accept and love her for who she is.
Inconsistent behavior? Women have this thing called women hormones and PMS. It does affect them especially in terms of emotions.
If you have free time with your wife, I highly recommend watching this video together with her. Mark Gungor is hilarious and talks about the differences between the male and female brains.
Mark Gungor Tale of Two Brains Full
http://youtu.be/814eR5K7KD8
About 2 hours long and well worth it.
Thanks, I have seen that before.
My post was really just an attempt at a comical release of frustration. What is being said isn't exactly news to me (married for 7 years) but that doesn't mean it isn't frustrating!
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You assume he's not a "she" ... EyeEatingFish could be her Lesbian nickname!
It would sure explain all the comments grounded in pure emotion!
Troll much? Ironic since your responses to my alleged emotional comments produce such an emotional response in you...
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Troll much? Ironic since your responses to my alleged emotional comments produce such an emotional response in you...
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: <<==== My emotional response when you get all butt-hurt!
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Here's a better question.
What kind of loser goes on a gun forum to complain about his wife?
You sound like a critical, P.O.S. of a husband.
If you want a tool, go buy it yourself.
What about instead of criticizing your wife, you fix yourself.
If you're half the @$$hole at home as you are on this forum, she will leave you anyway.
I wanted advice from bigger, more experienced @ssholes and I knew you would be here.
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Happy wife, happy life.
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I wanted advice from bigger more experienced @ssholes and I knew you would be here.
Maybe you would have gotten the sympathy you were after in the DRUNKEN POSTING thread? This sounds like the kind of thing guys need to get "lubricated" to talk about!
>:D
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Maybe you would have gotten the sympathy you were after in the DRUNKEN POSTING thread? This sounds like the kind of thing guys need to get "lubricated" to talk about!
>:D
Keep your hands off of my thread! And, for the record, alcohol is one of the WORST lubricants out there!
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Keep your hands off of my thread! And, for the record, alcohol is one of the WORST lubricants out there!
I thought bartenders were the best for telling your troubles to?
Your thread, so I figured you for the bartender!
Yeah, I guess everyone has limits on what they can tolerate!
And I can't imagine anyone trying alcohol "there!" OW! OW!
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I thought bartenders were the best for telling your troubles to?
Your thread, so I figured you for the bartender!
Yeah, I guess everyone has limits on what they can tolerate!
And I can't imagine anyone trying alcohol "there!" OW! OW!
"OW! OW! Doesn't really begin to cover it. Not, you know, that I know.
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She asked what I wanted for my birthday present, so I made it clear, to save me from a second trip to exchange an item if she bought one I wasn't interested in.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say this is an example of poor communication on your part. Did you send a picture of the exact product to her phone? Send her a link to the item online?
Do you realize people who don't buy power tools don't often remember make and model info, they just buy what the salesman says is the best value?
And if instead of saying a simple "Thank you," you told her she got the wrong one, then your married days are numbered.
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and say this is an example of poor communication on your part. Did you send a picture of the exact product to her phone? Send her a link to the item online?
Do you realize people who don't buy power tools don't often remember make and model info, they just buy what the salesman says is the best value?
And if instead of saying a simple "Thank you," you told her she got the wrong one, then your married days are numbered.
Pretty sure I mentioned the color too but oh well. I did tell her but I was polite and we had a little chuckle about it. It wasn't something I stewed over, it was just a memorable incident.
For the record, I love my wife and wouldn't trade her. She more than makes up for her drawbacks in other ways. I just tend to analyze things and I am commenting on the odd nature of my observations.
And no, she did not discover this post and is behind me right know threatening to throw my .300 winmag out the window unless I type the above sentence.
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Whats broken?
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Whats broken?
:D
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Not her heels that's for sure!
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ha ha ha
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I wanted advice from bigger, more experienced @ssholes and I knew you would be here.
You can try and turn it around all day but the reality is that only a loser would go online criticizing his wife.
Based on your constant whining and incessant bickering with every forum member, I'd say you're lucky to have a wife.
Instead of being a critical $hithead, why don't you try being nice to your wife.
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Is your wife broken?
She married you!
I rest my case.
>:D
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You can try and turn it around all day but the reality is that only a loser would go online criticizing his wife.
Based on your constant whining and incessant bickering with every forum member, I'd say you're lucky to have a wife.
Instead of being a critical $hithead, why don't you try being nice to your wife.
Anyone else see the irony? Someone being a critical shithead suggest I am being a critical shithead.
Analyzing human behavior in a group discussion is not whining or bickering.
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Anyone else see the irony? Someone being a critical shithead suggest I am being a critical shithead.
Analyzing human behavior in a group discussion is not whining or bickering.
I don't think you are capable of detached, logical analysis, ESPECIALLY when it comes to your own relationships both at home and on this forum.
You're just too emotional. It's obvious from the way you lash out in an immature name-calling tantrum that you are unable to maintain any normal level of discussion without making it all about you and what you believe.
Nobody cares what you personally believe except YOU! You contribute opinions here. That in no way adds to the discussion in any meaningful way, because you have nothing credible on which to base your opinions.
You have almost zero personal experience in the things you give opinions on. You have no direct knowledge. All you have is the first thing Google returned when you looked the topic up.
Your need to contribute is much stronger than your ability to contribute. Maybe when you accept that, you'll stop rubbing people the wrong way with all your long-winded bullshit designed to inject yourself into something you know nothing about.
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Ain't nothing broke there.....................
Whats broken?
:D
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this is like watching a K drama with only the subtitles. :wacko:
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You know a guy is cool with his wife when he's watching the K-Drama's !
I got banned when started throwing my own dialogue over the show.
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MauiD,
Easy with the stones man. Your house is pretty much glass.
You're just too emotional. It's obvious from the way you lash out in an immature name-calling tantrum that you are unable to maintain any normal level of discussion without making it all about you and what you believe.
Your need to contribute is much stronger than your ability to contribute. Maybe when you accept that, you'll stop rubbing people the wrong way with all your long-winded bullshit designed to inject yourself into something you know nothing about.
You very recently called me a jerk and a loser during an otherwise civil discussion. Had an immature name-calling tantrum in fact.
And when I called you on the second part a long time ago, possibly under one of your other user names, you replied it was the other forum members problem if they couldn't handle you, not yours.
At least you kind of mellowed.
KK speaks lots of words of wisdom.
I miss his witty posts.
I don't see the irony.
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Ain't nothing broke there.....................
Not Broken !
Although I like inspector's comment. Made me LMAO. :rofl:
Illegal in Carmel, CA without a permit ! ( for real )
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Pic of broken wife would help
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Guys let's tone down on the personal attacks a bit?
It's great to have good civil discussions, okay when it gets emotional from time to time, but let's not turn the discussions into K-Drama episodes. :)
I also miss KK's sharp remarks.
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Aside from the pissing match going on, there have been as few great posts with great advice. Thank you to those posters
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MauiD,
Easy with the stones man. Your house is pretty much glass.
You very recently called me a jerk and a loser during an otherwise civil discussion. Had an immature name-calling tantrum in fact.
And when I called you on the second part a long time ago, possibly under one of your other user names, you replied it was the other forum members problem if they couldn't handle you, not yours.
At least you kind of mellowed.
KK speaks lots of words of wisdom.
I miss his witty posts.
I don't see the irony.
When I call you names, it's not out of emotion. I'm doing it the way all real guys call each other names. If you take it personally, then you're being much more emotional than I would ever intend it.
I could not care less what you or anyone else on here thinks of me personally. I live my life, I take care of my business, and for me, this forum has a much higher purpose than debating details of who said what to whom when.
I say you're a jerk. You think about and either say, "Yeah, I was a jerk." or "F**k you. You're the jerk." Either way, it's just talk.
I don't think there's anyone on here I'm emotionally invested in, meaning if you said you hate me that it would cause me to lose any sleep.
Maybe the wussification of the nation is causing guys to behave more like girls?
If that's how you see yourself, Aiea, then I'd say you're broken, too! :rofl:
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Retreat. Redirect. Attack.
Sorry JL and the rest of the mods.
But this guys a one trick pony if you disagree with him and want to have a discussion.
He's likes to think he's a bully, but when you hit him in the nose becomes a crybaby.
Then he calls that same stuff on other members. :wacko:
His Google fu is outstanding. His intellectual and social skills, not so much.
Aside from the pissing match going on, there have been as few great posts with great advice. Thank you to those posters
:thumbsup:
I'm done pissing.
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Wasn't it a Dewalt he wanted ? :rofl:
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Thanks Aieahound and mauidog for reining it in.
Please take the out of topic back and forth to PM.
If you guys are free, I'd take you both out for lunch at DL's place. Free next week?
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Thanks Aieahound and mauidog for reining it in.
Please take the out of topic back and forth to PM.
If you guys are free, I'd take you both out for lunch at DL's place. Free next week?
I'm available. Heck I'll treat. :thumbsup:
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Haha you get the next time. MD, you in?
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Thanks Aieahound and mauidog for reining it in.
Please take the out of topic back and forth to PM.
If you guys are free, I'd take you both out for lunch at DL's place. Free next week?
Thanks for the offer. Really.
Next week is a crap-shoot for me. I've been fighting what might be the beginning of bronchitis for a week. Even as I type this, I sound like Val Kilmer/Doc Holiday hacking up his last half-a-lung in Tombstone!
I don't want to string you along not knowing how this is going to go. If I can take a raincheck until I'm over this thing completely, I'd appreciate it.
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Thanks for the offer. Really.
Next week is a crap-shoot for me. I've been fighting what might be the beginning of bronchitis for a week. Even as I type this, I sound like Val Kilmer/Doc Holiday hacking up his last half-a-lung in Tombstone!
I don't want to string you along not knowing how this is going to go. If I can take a raincheck until I'm over this thing completely, I'd appreciate it.
DL's super spicy off menu wing sauces are a cure all and will fix you right up.
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DL's super spicy off menu wing sauces are a cure all and will fix you right up.
Hey, if my coughing fits irritate ME having to hear them, I'm not about to take my show on the road for others to enjoy!
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MD, get a few drops of some peppermint essential oil into your drinking water.
I use this one and it's good.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B003I6TOM8/?tag=2ahawaii-20
I'm good for anytime you're feeling better.
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I don't think you are capable of detached, logical analysis, ESPECIALLY when it comes to your own relationships both at home and on this forum.
You're just too emotional. It's obvious from the way you lash out in an immature name-calling tantrum that you are unable to maintain any normal level of discussion without making it all about you and what you believe.
Nobody cares what you personally believe except YOU! You contribute opinions here. That in no way adds to the discussion in any meaningful way, because you have nothing credible on which to base your opinions.
You have almost zero personal experience in the things you give opinions on. You have no direct knowledge. All you have is the first thing Google returned when you looked the topic up.
Your need to contribute is much stronger than your ability to contribute. Maybe when you accept that, you'll stop rubbing people the wrong way with all your long-winded bullshit designed to inject yourself into something you know nothing about.
Feel free to look at my post history, I have debated you quite civilly in the past inspire of your insults. Only recently have I begun to show some teeth in the face of some quite nasty comments. Your responses to my comments smell more of emotion than mine if we look at them as a whole. When I show how an argument you use is fallacious you claim my response to be an emotional opinion instead of calmly trying to rebut my response.
You know nothing of my background, yet you know it has nothing to do with any of the topics we disagree on? Just for the record I have a degree in sociology, and statistics is a big area of importance in sociology. Rest assured that when I am pointing out flaws in numbers you use to support gun rights, I am doing so with a certain understanding of them. Perhaps you would like to share your credentials on laws, statistics, and human nature?
The difference between you and me is that you will take any pro 2A argument you find, accept it as truth, and preach it, while I sort out the strong ones and discard the weak of fallacious ones. You are passionate (emotional) about the 2nd amendment, mores than me admittedly, but I don't let my desires blind me to truths that are not convenient.
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Guys let's tone down on the personal attacks a bit?
It's great to have good civil discussions, okay when it gets emotional from time to time, but let's not turn the discussions into K-Drama episodes. :)
I also miss KK's sharp remarks.
Thank you for being a voice of reason.
I did get attached to a good korean drama when I was in Japan, they are like crack...
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Pic of broken wife would help
Nice try.