Behavior on 2aHawaii.com (Read 22758 times)

eyeeatingfish

Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« on: April 22, 2018, 09:09:14 PM »
I think we need a reminder to be civil here on this community. I am not talking about censoring people but we need a little more self control here if for no other reason than the interest of gun rights in Hawaii. I have talked to people about guns and mentioned this forum and in more than one occasion I have gotten a negative responses. They are not anti-gun but because of some of what is said here it gives them a bad image. People being rude mostly but also the criticality of differing opinions. I am not talking about disagreement either, I am talking about snarky, rude, insulting behavior.

This behavior splits us up where we need to be united and it drives people away from here. I used to be much more active but got tired of the behavior of some members and ended up only checking in once in a while. I have seen this from other members too and I think we should strive to avoid it. The common complaint here is that not that many people are willing to get out there and call their representative or show up at a protest when a gun rights issue comes up. So it would make sense that we should try not to alienate people from probably the best local resource in informing and organizing people get out there and take part.

A while back Flapp Jackson sent me a private message filled with insult and informed me that he was blocking me so he could not see my posts anymore as well as that of Aiea Hound. Ostensibly it was for the purpose of time savings for him. Now if he cannot handle opinions and facts he does not like then fine, that is his choice. If Flapp Jackson needs to block himself from seeing posts from AieaHound or myself because he cannot control his behavior then I would rather him do so than drag the discussion into the mud and put a bad face on the gun community.

So how about we try to disagree with a little bit of civility here. Remember that the goal is to get as many people educated and supporting the issue. I don't care if someone supports Bernie Sanders, they are welcome here if they are gun rights supporters. I don't even care if someone here is against guns, as long as they can have an open mind they may learn something and temper their views through a positive exchange. We don't need to eat our own just because they don't espouse a hardcore gun rights view because at the end of the day we need the numbers of active supporters.

So lets try to have a little more self control and disagree politely. Attack the argument, not the person. More education comes from a civil discussion than a flame war.

zippz

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #1 on: April 22, 2018, 09:27:14 PM »
I've been confused on what the purpose of this website is.  The purpose determines on how the website is run.  Currently, it's very open like a boys clubhouse where people can say just about anything they want.  If it's meant as a discussion forum for a wide audience, then you need more moderation and rules.  If the goal is focused on activism, technical, and gun rights then it has to be further moderated.

Websites like AR15.com tend to be more toward discussion for a wider audience.  Technical websites like anandtech (for techies) are heavily moderated where you can't go off topic and you can get suspended easily.

RSN172

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #2 on: April 22, 2018, 09:50:38 PM »
Every kind of forum will have those who just like to pick fights and argue about things that really don't matter.  Some forums will not tolerate that and I have seen several members of the Turbo Diesel Register forum who were long time regular posters permanently booted off for such behavior after only one warning.
Happily living in Puna

Heavies

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #3 on: April 22, 2018, 11:12:03 PM »
I've been confused on what the purpose of this website is.  The purpose determines on how the website is run.  Currently, it's very open like a boys clubhouse where people can say just about anything they want.  If it's meant as a discussion forum for a wide audience, then you need more moderation and rules.  If the goal is focused on activism, technical, and gun rights then it has to be further moderated.

Websites like AR15.com tend to be more toward discussion for a wider audience.  Technical websites like anandtech (for techies) are heavily moderated where you can't go off topic and you can get suspended easily.

Not sure what you mean by this.  The name of this forum is "2AHawaii.com"  Anything political, and the gun topic has become ULTRA political, is VERY DIFFICULT to moderate.  Most other sites strictly prohibit any kind of political discussion for this very FACT. 

I'd like not to put the smack down on any one's opinions.  However, I do agree that certain people do personal attack.  That gets moderated, if seen.  People have been banned...etc

eyeeatingfish

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #4 on: April 23, 2018, 12:14:49 AM »
I've been confused on what the purpose of this website is.  The purpose determines on how the website is run.  Currently, it's very open like a boys clubhouse where people can say just about anything they want.  If it's meant as a discussion forum for a wide audience, then you need more moderation and rules.  If the goal is focused on activism, technical, and gun rights then it has to be further moderated.

Websites like AR15.com tend to be more toward discussion for a wider audience.  Technical websites like anandtech (for techies) are heavily moderated where you can't go off topic and you can get suspended easily.

Good points. As I am not the creator of this website I certainly cannot claim what its real purpose is. I just know that it has helped to get me learning about how to become involved in the political process beyond just voting and having discussions with people about gun rights.

punaperson

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #5 on: April 23, 2018, 06:46:46 AM »
I am not talking about disagreement either, I am talking about snarky, rude, insulting behavior.
You do realize that those judgments on your part ("snarky, rude, insulting") are nothing but your own judgments, and not "facts", right? If I characterized many of your posts as "irrational, illogical, self-contradictory, leftist snowflake whining", would that be a fact or merely my personal judgment?

And you ARE calling for censorship. You can deny it, as you did by writing that you are "not talking about censoring people but..." (as virtually every politician everywhere who wants to ban guns states they "support the Second Amendment, but..."). And that's fine, you can ask for whatever you want. If you want to limit the discussion to various topics and/or various limitations on what kinds of words or types of arguments are allowed, perhaps the owners of the website will agree with you and create an echo chamber that will please you. And maybe that censorship will have the effect that you suspect, the "activism" in Hawaii re these issues will swell to a massive tsunami and overwhelm the legislative, executive and judicial reticence to legally recognize our inherent natural rights. Personally, I suspect you are 100% wrong, but I will gladly never click on this site again, much less write anything, if that were the case.

Why don't you provide us with a list of the people you find "insulting" and maybe they will agree to forgo posting here for one year to see just how effective that strategy is in sparking real change in our legal situation? Or how many years do you think it will take?

eyeeatingfish

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #6 on: April 23, 2018, 07:36:22 AM »
You do realize that those judgments on your part ("snarky, rude, insulting") are nothing but your own judgments, and not "facts", right? If I characterized many of your posts as "irrational, illogical, self-contradictory, leftist snowflake whining", would that be a fact or merely my personal judgment?

And you ARE calling for censorship. You can deny it, as you did by writing that you are "not talking about censoring people but..." (as virtually every politician everywhere who wants to ban guns states they "support the Second Amendment, but..."). And that's fine, you can ask for whatever you want. If you want to limit the discussion to various topics and/or various limitations on what kinds of words or types of arguments are allowed, perhaps the owners of the website will agree with you and create an echo chamber that will please you. And maybe that censorship will have the effect that you suspect, the "activism" in Hawaii re these issues will swell to a massive tsunami and overwhelm the legislative, executive and judicial reticence to legally recognize our inherent natural rights. Personally, I suspect you are 100% wrong, but I will gladly never click on this site again, much less write anything, if that were the case.

Why don't you provide us with a list of the people you find "insulting" and maybe they will agree to forgo posting here for one year to see just how effective that strategy is in sparking real change in our legal situation? Or how many years do you think it will take?

I am not calling for censorship, you are reading too deep into this. Nowhere did I suggest anything but self control. If I called for censorship I would have suggested moderators played a bigger role. Instead I ask people to control themselves, to put the bigger issue ahead of their desire to insult others.

Ok, you wanna dance around this by suggesting that insults are just subjective judgements? So I could call your mother some negative names and just suggest it is your fault for "judging" the comment as rude? There is also a difference between saying that there is a logical fault to an argument and just dismissing an individual as illogical. One fosters dialogue the other shuts it down.

Heavies

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #7 on: April 23, 2018, 07:38:08 AM »
You do realize that those judgments on your part ("snarky, rude, insulting") are nothing but your own judgments, and not "facts", right? If I characterized many of your posts as "irrational, illogical, self-contradictory, leftist snowflake whining", would that be a fact or merely my personal judgment?

And you ARE calling for censorship. You can deny it, as you did by writing that you are "not talking about censoring people but..." (as virtually every politician everywhere who wants to ban guns states they "support the Second Amendment, but..."). And that's fine, you can ask for whatever you want. If you want to limit the discussion to various topics and/or various limitations on what kinds of words or types of arguments are allowed, perhaps the owners of the website will agree with you and create an echo chamber that will please you. And maybe that censorship will have the effect that you suspect, the "activism" in Hawaii re these issues will swell to a massive tsunami and overwhelm the legislative, executive and judicial reticence to legally recognize our inherent natural rights. Personally, I suspect you are 100% wrong, but I will gladly never click on this site again, much less write anything, if that were the case.

Why don't you provide us with a list of the people you find "insulting" and maybe they will agree to forgo posting here for one year to see just how effective that strategy is in sparking real change in our legal situation? Or how many years do you think it will take?

Lets not get into a argument about this, again, because BOTH sides constantly beg us moderators to censor the other when we allow differing points of view to remain.  Then the personal insults ensue when the topic is played out and no one can come to an agreement. 

People should do the ADULT thing, and WALK AWAY, agree to disagree, and walk away. 

All I know is some, who many complain about to be banned and censored, I have actually seen, in real life, boots on the ground doing SOMETHING to further 2A in Hawaii.  And others, who make a lot of noise, preaching to the choir,  seem to know a lot about the know, I have never seen nor heard of doing any real life furthering, and heard the excuses, when ask to. 

Just Sayin 

drck1000

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #8 on: April 23, 2018, 08:18:04 AM »
Online forums in general often have strange dynamics.  This is the only local based board that I'm on.  I would have thought that the closer and community oriented boards would be different, but really aren't.  Online boards are often filled with many members who are full of awesome information to share with newbies.  That's what I value and look for when I search forums.  Feedback from those folks can save people in many ways.  Time, money, keep them safe, etc.  In the end, you're going to have people who want to do their own thing no matter what the rules, community says, etc.  Again, being a locally based board, I would have thought that much of the times folks would police themselves, especially since we might run into each other here and there.  I've met some awesome folks from this board, but I'll also admit that there are many that I really don't want anything to do with and I haven't even met them yet.

I am part owner of a firearms forum and used to be moderator on another national level board.  On the one that I am part owner of now, we have a strict policy on no politics or religion.  Any politics has to be DIRECTLY related to 2A issues.  The non-sense that goes on with discussion on politics and religion tore the other board apart.  This is in NO WAY a criticism of 2AHawaii as I believe the discussion of 2A issues here is important.  Just sharing observations of discussions on politics and religion. 

I enjoy talking about firearms, trying to help new folks, etc.  However, discussion on firearms gets stale after a while as there isn't really anything new very often.  Things get rehashed when a newbie comes on board.  You'll have those that provide useful feedback, then you'll have the curmudgeons who either shut them out with "not another 9 vs 45 thread" stuff. 

Online boards will always have differing opinions.  I also see a lot of folks saying a lot that they would NEVER say to someone's face.  On another board, we had this one problem member.  Was actually a nice guy, but would just get his kicks off of arguing with folks, about anything.  He was very good at it too and could often "rope a dope" in arguments and leave them looking stupid.  Anyways, he would freely admit that he would often get his teeth pushed in when having discussions in public, so he learned to do it online.  I see a lot of that here too.

I don't see things as an issue of moderators.  Their board and their choice to run the board the way they see fit.  I do see things as an issue of growing up.  Don't get along with someone, ignore them.  Don't agree with someone, spend a few minutes to try to understand their point and maybe you can learn something.  Maybe not, but if you can't agree, go your own way.  There are many here that I don't agree with and ignore.  A couple in particular come up with all these irrational and illogical conclusions about everything.  I've tried to point that out, but nowadays, unless they are saying something that could potentially lead to another member being unsafe, I'll just let them be.  Not worth my time. 

drck1000

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #9 on: April 23, 2018, 08:24:19 AM »
Lets not get into a argument about this, again, because BOTH sides constantly beg us moderators to censor the other when we allow differing points of view to remain.  Then the personal insults ensue when the topic is played out and no one can come to an agreement. 

1) People should do the ADULT thing, and WALK AWAY, agree to disagree, and walk away. 

2) All I know is some, who many complain about to be banned and censored, I have actually seen, in real life, boots on the ground doing SOMETHING to further 2A in Hawaii.  And others, who make a lot of noise, preaching to the choir,  seem to know a lot about the know, I have never seen nor heard of doing any real life furthering, and heard the excuses, when ask to. 

Just Sayin
1) Amen to that!  :thumbsup:

2) I see that as well.  I also see a lot of all talk and no action.  A lot of "what does [x group] do for me?" but then no stepping up and actually contributing to try to make things better. 

Then you have those that just like to argue for the sake of arguing.  Having to be right about everything.  I am not on many forums, but I've heard that there are much worse.  I've heard that chainsaw, car and camera forums are among the worse.  I was thinking of getting into DLSRs and I went to browse one forum and they are much worse that firearms folks. 

punaperson

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #10 on: April 23, 2018, 08:33:44 AM »
I am not calling for censorship, you are reading too deep into this. Nowhere did I suggest anything but self control. If I called for censorship I would have suggested moderators played a bigger role. Instead I ask people to control themselves, to put the bigger issue ahead of their desire to insult others.

Yeah, you don't want "censorship", you just want people to not say what they want to say and you want to call that "self control", rather than "my control". How very convenient for you. You want to dictate what people are "allowed" to write, but you want them to acquiesce in conforming to your "standard" of what is "acceptable" or not. But you don't advocate censorship. You just want everyone to agree with you. Where have we seen that before? Another one of your, pardon me, logically incoherent and false claims.

Ok, you wanna dance around this by suggesting that insults are just subjective judgements? So I could call your mother some negative names and just suggest it is your fault for "judging" the comment as rude?

It wouldn't be my "fault" because I wouldn't call your statement "rude" because that's a judgment that would be pointless for me to make. I know, you don't get it. Obviously.

There is also a difference between saying that there is a logical fault to an argument and just dismissing an individual as illogical. One fosters dialogue the other shuts it down.

Yeah, and your "complaining" and wanting people to exhibit "self-control" is not an attempt to "shut down" dialogue, right? Just "certain kinds" of dialogue that you find "unacceptable" for whatever variety of "reasons" you offer to justify ending such dialogue. You want to "foster dialogue" as long as it conforms to your standard of "appropriate" dialog. You can't make this stuff up.

punaperson

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #11 on: April 23, 2018, 08:49:16 AM »
Lets not get into a argument about this, again, because BOTH sides constantly beg us moderators to censor the other when we allow differing points of view to remain.  Then the personal insults ensue when the topic is played out and no one can come to an agreement. 
I've never asked, much less "begged" a moderator to ever censor any statement on this site. I abhor censorship in any form and believe that no purpose is served by it other than to move the goal posts ever further and further toward crimethink. Of course the owners of this site are free to institute any policies they like.

I can only imagine the "rules" if the goal is to "come to an agreement". That's perfectly Orwellian. Be sure to let me know what the agreements are you reach with Everytown for Gun Safety, Giffords, The Law Center to Prevent Gun Violence, etc..

changemyoil66

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #12 on: April 23, 2018, 09:01:05 AM »
What I've learned from other forums is to never name call, just present facts and my POV/opinion.  Especially here because we may bump into each other vs. a mainland forum (AR15.com or bodybuilding.com, etc...) where you won't run into other members.

When I first posted on bodybuilding.com, there's a lot of "bro science" and I would get so frustrated at how stupid people are.  It would bother me for days and I would spend a lot of time proving them wrong, but it wouldn't change their thinking.  So after a few weeks, I learned "no worry, beef curry".  All you can do is present info and let the other person decide.

There's a study I read that when arguing a point, the more "facts" that are presented to the other that proves they're wrong, the more they're going to disbelieve you.  The study was started because how liberals won't accept data/stats (firearm related).

Drakiir84

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #13 on: April 23, 2018, 09:05:57 AM »
Pretty sure the 3 purposes of this forum is to:
1.  Troll
2.  Sell shit
3.  Buy shit
"The rifle is a weapon. Let there be no mistake about that. It is a tool of power, and thus dependent completely upon the moral stature of its user. It is equally useful in securing meat for the table, destroying group enemies on the battlefield, and resisting tyranny. In fact, it is the only means of resisting tyranny, since a citizenry armed with rifles simply cannot be tyrannized."
-Jeff Cooper

Heavies

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #14 on: April 23, 2018, 09:22:41 AM »
I've never asked, much less "begged" a moderator to ever censor any statement on this site. I abhor censorship in any form and believe that no purpose is served by it other than to move the goal posts ever further and further toward crimethink. Of course the owners of this site are free to institute any policies they like.

I can only imagine the "rules" if the goal is to "come to an agreement". That's perfectly Orwellian. Be sure to let me know what the agreements are you reach with Everytown for Gun Safety, Giffords, The Law Center to Prevent Gun Violence, etc..
1) I never mentioned punaperson
2) I never said people are required to come to an agreement

groveler

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #15 on: April 23, 2018, 10:28:47 AM »
Good points. As I am not the creator of this website I certainly cannot claim what its real purpose is. I just know that it has helped to get me learning about how to become involved in the political process beyond just voting and having discussions with people about gun rights.
Do you actually think there is a Political process in Hawaii?
There is a PARTY process.  There is only one party and
point of view, any others have been destroyed or banned.

zippz

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #16 on: April 23, 2018, 10:54:28 AM »
The concept of free speech is great as an individual.  However there is always rules and a level of moderation when working in groups.  Moderation can help with encouraging more discussion, getting more people involved, and allow for different points of view.  Also keeps things productive.  Moderation doesn't necessarily mean censorship.

Ever had to run a meeting with two opposing sides with no rules?  You could allow everyone to have absolute free speech and no rules but everything would turn into chaos for many reasons.

RSN172

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #17 on: April 23, 2018, 12:19:28 PM »
Just like the road maintenance meetings in most subdivisions in Puna, where the association hires 2 cops to maintain order.
Happily living in Puna

Super Dave

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #18 on: April 23, 2018, 12:37:51 PM »
It's probably better to not engage with someone who is unable to contemplate opposing views.  Their ego reacts like it is an attack which leads to ill will.  Unfortunately, this level of polarization seems to be the norm.  I guess that's "why can't we all just get long".

Surf

Re: Behavior on 2aHawaii.com
« Reply #19 on: April 23, 2018, 01:12:52 PM »
Most forums are a joke when it comes to reasonable discussion, often due to the lack of interpersonal cues, but mostly due to unreasonable cyber courage.  The forums that are successful are those that are moderated well, with members who are able to communicate while maintaining a healthy dose of reasonableness as if communicating face to face.

Communicating well on the www. doesn't mean being able to use a lot of big words tied into sentences, tied into paragraphs  Nor does it mean cherry picking stats or posting links to stories, that is nowhere near an accurate representation of a whole.  It becomes a frivolous effort nowhere near resembling a reasonable debate and this is where this forum resides.

So as Drakiir mentions
Troll, sell shit, buy shit.  I like to keep an eye on the classifieds but like to throw a bone here and there.