I looked into the pricing and comparison between 9mm JHP and .40 S&W. Now I'm leaning towards the 9mm again. A box of JHP that I can in the safe and rotate ever now and then (how long to let ammo sit? do they expire?) should suffice, then I can buy bulk ammo until I buy my own reloader.
I didn't really like the feel of revolvers when I shot them but the wife did so maybe she might end up getting one.
I already have money set aside for the px4 (or something in that price range). I've decided on cheaper 9mm and 9mm JHP for HD (thanks to you). Anything else I should consider for a first gun purchase?
Hi numbertwo -- heres some additional advice on choosing your first gun:
Eye dominance - Find out if you are left eye or right eye dominant vs left handed vs right handed. I am left eye dominant and right handed which means my optimal body alignment on proper shooting is slightly off. You'll find that shooting left handed if you're left eye dominant, you achieve the optimal gun / hand / eye alignment more naturally, than if you shoot cross dominance. If you aim with your left eye, make sure your gun can operate left handed (mag release, safety, slide lock, etc). If you're left eye dominant, you may want to learn to shoot left handed even if you're right handed. Some cross dominant folks put black tape over their dominant eye but I think this is a bad idea if you cannot shoot with both eyes open.
Proper grip - Then, look up on the Internet what proper one handed and two handed grip alignment looks like so you can learn to hold your gun correctly on the get go. Know that semiautomatic vs revolver gripping are slightly different. When you grip the gun with your shooting hand, see that the barrel/slide lines up straight up your forearm so recoil is absorbed correctly. Then with that grip, check that the flesh behind your index finger's fingernail is sitting comfortably on the trigger (some folks teach to have the trigger on the joint but I'm not sure about this). If something on this is off, then the gun grip might be too big/ too small for your hand. Try pulling the trigger (on an unloaded gun of course) to see if you can keep the gun steady when it fires or if you're flinching. Learn the proper grip of your support hand too since this will be key in shooting accurately.
Now that you know what the proper handling is supposed to look like, visit the stores and try gripping the different guns to see which one sits correctly on your hand. The grip doesn't have to be perfect but just be aware how you need to adjust for it if it's not. If your wife wants to shoot this, make sure to have her try gripping the gun too and make sure she can rack the slide without problems.
You'll want eye and ear protection (two sets?), a target frame, a target backboard, paper targets (shoot and see kind?), as well as cleaning equipment to clean your gun after shooting.
Oh also, don't forget a safe/locked case to store your firearm safely when not in use.