Instead of generalizing to all women, I will just ask this question regarding my wife (but from what I understand, it applies widely).
Due to differing muscle structure between myself and my wife, my wife finds it extremely difficult to rack the slide on a pistol, or even cock the hammer on a revolver. She cannot pull a Double Action trigger. It is OK if I cock it first into SA but I can't be the only person to always pre-chamber a round, etc. which is also dangerous since the gun would then be in chambered mode or cocked and NOT locked. Not all guns have safeties and a decocker safety defeats the chambering.
So, what do you guys suggest? She can BARELY rack the slide, so she does rack the slide but prefers me to do it for her at the range.
Suggestions for her to improve muscle strength are well meaning but impractical as you can understand. Women generally do not prioritize firearms. Anyway there are cans and lids in the kitchen that I often have to open for her (and all her friends whenever we visit) and I found that almost all her female friends just cannot open very simple lids that I am surprised because I am not a huge muscular guy, but I opened those lids quite easily.
ANY FIREARM TYPE SUGGESTION? (I don't think my wife can chamber a round on the AR-15 with the charging handle; maybe the round might be loaded but not seated right, and require the forward assist; too many things for her to think about in case of urgency).