I use to participate in many of the range days offered by both organizations, but like many others that I remember going with to those events, do not go anymore due to life's other obligations, but also due to the alienation and condescending behavior exhibited by certain members there.
Do not get me wrong, the leadership of both organizations have done a fantastic job at what they do. However, there are a few members in both organizations that knowingly or unknowingly rub people the wrong way, resulting in people not wanting to participate or associate with those events anymore.
I don't know that much about HDF, but I can definitely see folks in HRA that rub folks the wrong way. I know that there are many cliques and not everyone gets along with everyone else. Such is life. I am aware of folks not coming out because of other folks. Peoples toes are stepped on, people encountering folks on a bad day, people are just plain assholes, etc. Again, such is life. My opinion is that there are many more TomG's, Drakiirs, dogman, etc than the assholes. I mean I am pretty easy going, but yeah, there are folks that I don't care for. But again, shooting is something I enjoy and I don't let that crap ruin it for me. If there's someone condescending or an asshole, f'em. Plenty of other good folks in both organizations.
I will say that times change and people do move on. I know of at least of a few more enigmatic folks have left that I heard used to be cause for rifts. I never really noticed myself, but such things come up over some cigars and whiskey. It's that latter connections that make participation worth it. Everyone has their limits and time is valuable. I wouldn't spend my time on things that left me feeling totally alienated and such, but then again, I'm not that thin skinned.
I have come across some condescending folks at many shooting events, classes, etc. But for the most part, those are the exception. I've had folks rub me the wrong way at HDF shoots many years ago, like the know-it-all that makes snide remarks on the side, all the while not even shooting himself. The competition shooter who never helps set up or clean up, but is always complaining about how long the event takes. So I do notice things that I don't like, but ignore them and move on. Enjoy life man.