some well known "really good" dies are Redding and Forster.
In my opinion, read about it first before spending more money. That way, you understand what is necessary, what works and what doesn't due to voodoo.
Tumblers are great for cleaning large batches of brass - not necessary. Dry tumbling is the cheapest and easiest.
Bullet selection varies. Much like cooking. What are you shooting for? Same with powder. There is a myriad of powder, primer, bullet combinations. Some are tried and true. You;d have to experiment with your gun. Ladder technique, OCW. Search for load recipes and work your way up from min. rec. load. Chronographs are great tools. Learn how to read case sign i.e. flattened primers, etc.