Sometimes looks and demeanor is deceiving.
What seems to be a mean hard ass turns out to be a really nice person.
Case in point: (one of countless ones over my life but one of my favorites).
In my working days we used to hit the high rise decks in new construction. The deck is the highest floor (at that time) of a high rise building. The pace of work is one floor every 3 to 4 days. So the deck today will be the floor beneath you by the next week.
In my opinion one of the hardest jobs in construction is those steel men doing the rebars on high rises. They are responsible for erecting the skeletal rebar foundation before concrete is poured. The electricians usually work side by side with the steel men installing conduit for the electrical system along with plumbers, carpenters, etc.
There was this short stocky steel man Foreman that was constantly yelling at the top of his lungs at his men. Usually for failing to install the rebar to specs but mainly just to "
HURRY THE F**K UP!!. He rode his men hard and relentlessly, day in and day out. I initially wondered why the men would put up with this kind of verbal abuse. A foreman pushing hard is nothing new, as construction has a schedule and to fall behind costs serious money. There were intimidating instances where this foreman would slam down steel and anything else nearby to either get his point across or to just get the men motivated.
But I found out why his men tolerated his behavior. It's because when the lunch bell rings, or the pau hana horn blares, this man becomes the most caring and compassionate person you'd never think would come from a person just yelling and screaming just minutes before. There is an old school saying: "Work is work."
During lunch, his voice is gentle and genuine. He would ask his men how things are with family. He would bring treats for the men: I remember he brought ice cold mangoes or pineapple slices for the men. Being on the top floor of a high rise under the relentless sun and you will appreciate these small, simple gestures. He always had a huge cooler of juices and sodas for his men. Many times he would come over and offer us drinks also.
When there are milestone accomplishments he is super generous to his men. Usually when there is a "topping off" party (when the high rise building reaches it's top floor) he would hold BBQ parties with beer, steaks, and pupus for his men and a few of the other trades like us, plumbers, and a few other trades. As far as I know he provided the majority of the drinks and food out of his own pocket. Keep in mind this is the olden days of construction (early 90's) before it no longer was permitted to drink and have gatherings on construction sites after work.
Aside from his super duper loud and intimidating voice, he has shown himself to be a caring, friendly, down to earth and quiet type of guy.
Like I said earlier about that old school saying: Work is work.......
