Would you do what Lebron did?
How about this: If you were at a funeral, would you silently play on your i-Phone in front of the person doing a Eulogy for the deceased?
Sometimes we do what is prudent in respect to other people around us, regardless of how we personally feel. There are times the battle must be postponed for another time.
You even said you wouldn't care if someone burned the image of the EEF family crest. What about your other family members. Are you sure they feel the same as you? Can you just stand there and watch them cry? Wouldn't you fight, if not for you, but for them?
Same as this country. We criticize, argue, lambast it. But for many of us, it's our family.
I don't know Lebron's reasons so I cannot say that I would or would not do what he did.
Let me ask you this though, would there be anything Lebron could have said that would have changed your mind? Any amount of grievance which could conceivably sway you to do what he did?
Personally I tend to go along to get along. I wouldn't play my phone during a eulogy, I would agree it to be rude. I would stand in ovation if the rest of the crowd did unless it was some cause or speech I found abhorrent. I don't like hugging and shaking hands but I force myself to do it in social settings because it is what people expect. I don't want to come across as disrespectful to them.
Your question about seeing another family member upset over the burning of our family crest puts me at a cross road. Although I may not like that the person is disrespectful to my family I would also recognize that it is their freedom to do so. If I were to go and violently confront them I wouldn't be maintaining the values I say I do. I don't want to say I like freedom of speech but then throw it out the window when I don't like the speech. I understand that criticizing Lebron for sitting is not denying his speech though, I had more of a flag burning image for that last comment.
Maybe it is like tastes in food, some people find foods appetizing that others see no appeal in, such as blue cheese. Conservatives rank higher on the loyalty moral index which would explain why they seem to get much more offended by acts like Lebron's. For others they don't rank as high on the loyalty morality index so they probably don't find it that bothersome. Liberals rank higher on the justice morality index so maybe they feel that kneeling/sitting during the anthem is worth the offense because they value some social cause higher than respect to country.
It is interesting because here on this forum, with the vast majority conservative (I would guess), have all manner of reasons to hate our government. Very restrictive gun laws, they waste our money, corruption, the land was stolen from Native Hawaiians, etc. but, as you said, it is like family so you would still stand for the Hawaii Pono'i. I think there are people who are so disgruntled, who feel so wronged, that they see no reason to pay respect to this nation. Maybe a veteran who was sent to fight an unjust war, maybe a native group who feels stolen from, maybe decedents of slaves who feel the government was so bad to them, etc. I may not agree with their grievances but I don't feel bothered if they voice their grievances by not standing for the anthem. I don't know if you subscribe to any faith but if a friend came with you to your place of worship and didn't perform the worship act because they are a different religion, would you feel they are disrespecting you or your religion by not bowing, raising hands in the air, or whatever other symbol of worship?