I agree totally.
On the mainland, drivers are bad because they are aggressive and reckless.
In HI, the drivers are dangerous because they are stupid. And that is not just a funny way to say it, it is a very serious comment. Drivers here do really stupid stuff and it is dangerous, almost like I don't know if they even took any defensive driving classes.
I am not sure which one is scarier.
I drive with total aloha, not only because I prefer myself and everyone to be friendly, but because I am trying to be the more (most?) defensive driver around when others are not.
My friends and family say I drive too slow. I keep telling them, you guys drive too fast. They laugh and think I am the stupid one.
All my friends visiting from mainland are shocked by the driving habits here. They always ask me if this is how people drive all the time. I say Yup.
This is something I am not proud of about HI. I really wish we drove much safer here in HI. So many accidents and deaths every week.
PS - by the way, it is scary in the situation you mentioned because that driver with NO right of way MIGHT just pull out onto the main road! You know I speak the truth!