all im saying is that if i began my journey into firearm ownership today, it would be hard to find information if i didnt know anyone or knew about this forum etc.
where can you sign up for lets say a multiday handgun class that i will pay someone to teach me the proper basics?
id have to go to a life session or hdf. are there others? where do the instructors at the gun shows teach their students? at the public range? certainly not at any o the action bays...
what am i missing? ive seen individuals at the range who seems to care that they cannot hit thier pistol target at 25yds. where can thise individuals go?
Basic handgun instruction is not a multi-day class unless you throw in CCW or some other more advanced training. If you want to learn to shoot one particular pistol you've purchased, that only takes about an hour to instruct and demonstrate the basics of stance, grip, sight picture, loading, unloading, clearing malfunctions, proper trigger pull, and so on.
Once you've shown you can emulate what you are shown, the rest will not take days, but months of visiting the range, sending about a thousand rounds down range, and developing muscle memory and confidence.
You may discover over time, you prefer a certain handgun brand or model over others. That's also part of the process. There is no one-size-fits-all for firearms. You'll have to be open-minded and test out some other hardware.
That's for one handgun. If you have multiples, you will need to repeat the process if the firearm is very different in ergonomics, function and/or caliber.
I'm sure someone else will let me know if I left anything out, but this is the path I took with my daughter, who went from 100% never touched a handgun in her life, to participating in a MPPL competition.

One last thing. Hawaii has a very active shooting community. Unfortunately, this is not a state that wants to make ownership easy. The government does the bare minimum to support us most of the time. Unless someone is willing take it upon themselves to organize all the clubs, local gun stores, FFLs, trainers, military groups, law enforcement, sporting goods stores, and firearm owners who want to participate under one cohesive system, we will continue to have a system of self-organized groups with common interests, some of which have affiliations with variety of national organizations.
If you ever take up golf, it's basically the same. You go out with a few friends, decide you like it, realize it requires training beyond the basics, and you seek out the resources that you are comfortable with. Most start with the pros. You talk to the employees at your favorite equipment retailer, and they give you the best options to begin your journey.