I think it's a case of "you get what's available."
If your top choice of electric or hybrid vehicle comes with the start/stop feature, are you really going to take your less favorite option instead?
I feel like these debates are irrelevant for most people. My daughter's 2008 Prius is still kicking, and she's had the least number of mechanical failures of any vehicle I've experienced.
I feel like, you buy the one you like, then drive it. Over time, you'll form an opinion about whether you love or hate it.
You can research cars, appliances, etc. to death before buying, but it won't guarantee you'll love your top choice more than all the others. I never thought I'd love my Plymouth Voyager minivan, but we kept it for 12 years. it felt like i was getting rid of a member of the family when I sold it, but it was time and we really needed a pickup since we were buying a house.